Losing a spouse is never easy, and the loneliness that comes with grief can feel overwhelming. But what if we told you that the worst of that loneliness starts to ease up after about three years? New research from Monash University suggests that the feelings of isolation begin to lift over time – but long-term loneliness can still take a toll on your mental and physical health.
When the loneliness from grief starts to fade, many people find they crave more social interaction. That’s where retirement living can come in handy.
Retirement villages are set up to help you stay connected. With communal spaces, organised activities, and special interest groups – like fitness classes, book clubs, and happy hours – you’ll have plenty of opportunities to meet new people and build friendships. And the best part? Your new neighbours might knock on your door just to check in, invite you for coffee, or ask if you want to join them for bowls.
One widower shared his story after losing his wife. He had been struggling with his grief and holding onto the past when a friend told him he had the chance to create a “new self.”
At first, he was angry. “I didn’t want that,” he said. “I wanted what I had before.” But over time, he realized his late wife would have wanted him to enjoy life again. She had even mentioned it to him before she passed, but he hadn’t been ready to listen.
Eventually, he sold their family home for $3.5 million and moved into an independent living unit near his daughter. With the money left over, he treated his children to a European holiday and even planned another trip with a fellow widower from the retirement village.
“I still feel lonely at times, especially in the evenings when I’m alone,” he admitted. “But being around others really helps. I know that this is what my wife would have wanted me to do.”